Local Single Milf…She Is Out There Just Waiting For You

Local Single Milf…She Is Out There Just Waiting For You

You have found the woman of your dreams, the one drawback? She is a mother. Being the guy who never considered himself the “kid” type, it is decision time. If she is worth getting to know, or perhaps even getting to love, then you have to find a way to work yourself into her world. Being a mom is a very complex thing. Not only do you have to worry about your own needs, desires and responsibilities, you are responsible for another, perhaps more, life. The best way to date a single mom is to ask one what it is that she is looking for. We did that and below are the things that were very important to her.  The local single milf may not be looking for what you think, she may be looking for some honesty.

1.  Don’t pretend that you absolutely love children, especially if you don’t

It is okay that you aren’t in love with the idea of children. She may not have been either before she had her own. There are many adults that don’t like children until they have their own. Not wanting to be an instant Daddy, or not being in the place in your life where you are ready is certainly understandable. What is not understandable is pretending that you are “Daddy Daycare” material if you are more like “Big Daddy”. Be honest with her about how you feel about children. If you think they are little shits, you may want to ease up with the language and soften the blow, but don’t lie to make yourself look good that never works well for either of you.

2. Don’t become an instant family

Sure she will love it if you include her children once in a while. Making an effort to include the other important people in her life is important, but don’t invite them to go everywhere you go. It should be your relationship first and the children are an expansion of that. If you start to take the kids everywhere you go, there is bound to be some jealousy. She wants your attention and won’t get it if you keep taking the kiddies along. You don’t need an instant family, grow your relationship alone first.

3. You don’t get a say

Sure, the kid is acting like a total asshole. What do you do? You keep your mouth shut unless asked. You don’t have the right to co-parent unless asked. Most guys make the mistake of thinking they can walk right in and start disciplining children. That is the biggest turn off ever. No matter how much she likes you, you start talking nasty to her children, or reprimand them in a way that she doesn’t like and you are going to be history. Leave the parenting up to the parent.

4. Watch your behavior

What your local single milf is looking for most is a guy who will be a good example for her children. When you are out with the kids, don’t drink unless it is talked about. Drinking will make you not be yourself, and may be a bad influence on her children. Other behaviors that you want to avoid are smoking, drug use (obviously), and swearing. Saying “shit” may not be a big deal to you, but it is a big deal when they march into kindergarten repeating the new word you have just taught them.

5. Don’t become Santa

Most likely she already has an ex who buys the kids with gifts, she doesn’t need a boyfriend who will do the same. If you want the kids to like you, then you have to spend the right amount of time with them, not the right amount of money. It is okay if you are out and see something they would absolutely love, but it is not appropriate to lavish them with gifts every time you see them. You are setting up a very bad precedent that you are going to regret if it ever becomes serious.

6. If children are not what you want, you have to say so

If you want to be with a local milf you can’t lie. If children are not what you see in your future, then don’t lead her on or think that things will change. You have to be fair to her and the kids and tell her right up front. It is okay to want to live a life without offspring ,but you can’t have a woman who already has them, it just won’t work because you will be asking her to choose. You also can’t say you want one thing and then turn a 180 when it becomes serious. That isn’t fair for anyone.

7. No sleepovers

If you want to be with your local milf, it is very important that you not spend the night. To show respect and to not confuse the kids don’t ever spend the night until or unless the relationship has reached that point. Waking up with some strange man in the house may not mean a whole lot to you, but it can be very traumatizing to a little kid. Even if she is drunk and says it is no big deal, it is a very big deal. To date a local single milf, don’t scare the bejesus out of her kids.

8. Even if the guy’s a tool, look past it

If you want to date local single milfs, then you have to date their exes. I know it sounds absolutely miserable, but unfortunately, it is absolutely essential. If you have a serious relationship with a single milf and her children, you are also gaining an ex that you will ultimately have to compromise and somewhat not hate. Set a good precedent up front so that there isn’t any animosity if things get serious. Stay out of their problems and try to be Switzerland, at least in his eyes.

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